Women – From my perspective

I have been meaning to write in this topic for a long time. Since this is an interesting but a heavy topic, it has taken more than three weeks for me digest all my cluttered thoughts and organize them. I intend to write about women from various perspectives, namely, family, culture, society and religion. I will start from family since it is the easiest and it is from here every man is deeply influenced. Most my thoughts will be within the context of Indian woman.
It is conventional to say that husband/ father/ son are the head of the family depending upon what is his main role. It has been so almost everywhere in the world. So is the woman really a secondary figure supporting man? At a cursory glance it seems to be the case. Until recently he has been the only breadwinner which got him this coveted place. Of course everyone now knows that modern woman pretty much does every job a man does with equal ease, may be with more grace. Apart from this established fact, they play a wonderfully important role. I believe they are the gel which practically holds the family together.
According to my mom, in any situation, if we substitute or interchange man with woman and vice-versa and still if our conscience accepts that change without any pride, guilt, trouble and questions, then equality is established. I have used this formula so many times in so many situations in life, and it has been very rare that I have felt the way my mom has described. In other words, despite the fact that I am really broad minded (or so calls my sister!), well educated, reasonably intelligent, expressive and seen a lot of world, “male chauvinism” hides deep in the recess of the mind. Is it a cultural thing, is it in every man’s genes, is it with the upbringing – I really don’t know. Only with this understanding, I say, equality and freedom for woman is a long, long way. The most disturbing fact in this is that women themselves are pitifully (or blissfully!) unaware of this fact.
It is often said that a woman is protected (or supposedly protected!) by father when she is a daughter, husband when she is a wife and son when she is a mother. Even great religions say this fact and proclaim that they have taken great care of the women. This is total nonsense and saying that the woman is inferior to man throughout her life in very cleverly formulated words. To me, she can think, work and reason equally, that given a civilized society she can pretty much take care of herself and also others.
Personally, my mother and sister has been a great influence on me. They are always full of surprises, handling every situation with grace and known familiarity. It is from them I learnt to look at woman with more respect and understanding. Sometimes, they seem to do so many things that it seems to, long back in the distant past, all the men sat together and decided that if given all rights and freedom, they themselves might be relegated to secondary status and thus took away thought and reason from woman, put on the cultural bonds, blunted women’s mind with family, love, care and other related things. This direction of thought really scares me, since only then I realize how dependent men are over women. Practically, the life of a man falls apart without the woman. If every man reading this essay imagine a situation where there is or will be no woman in his life, how does he feel about it? They say a woman completes a man, may be it is the other unsaid part. That, we men are all but a part of bigger entity called woman.